A lot of the hostility and expecting people to have a problem with it comes from the experience of people having a problem with it. It's a lot easier to go with hostility and bitterness than hoping that people will accept you and getting shot down so often.
To be honest, I am pissed. I've been pissed for years now. I'm pissed that when Evie introduces me as her girlfriend, her dad feels the need to clarify that I'm a "girl and a friend". I'm pissed that when my family tells me to say hi to Evie, they always have to clarify "my friend Evie" as if just saying her name will mean oh GOD, we're actually in a relationship. I'm pissed that whenever we so much as kiss in public, there's always some guy who treats it as some kind of spectacle for his own entertainment. Fuck that.
Yes, we ought to be working toward integration, but when it seems like we're the only ones who give a shit, while everyone else still treats you as something Other, it really makes you want to say screw it.
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Date: 2007-10-11 08:42 pm (UTC)To be honest, I am pissed. I've been pissed for years now. I'm pissed that when Evie introduces me as her girlfriend, her dad feels the need to clarify that I'm a "girl and a friend". I'm pissed that when my family tells me to say hi to Evie, they always have to clarify "my friend Evie" as if just saying her name will mean oh GOD, we're actually in a relationship. I'm pissed that whenever we so much as kiss in public, there's always some guy who treats it as some kind of spectacle for his own entertainment. Fuck that.
Yes, we ought to be working toward integration, but when it seems like we're the only ones who give a shit, while everyone else still treats you as something Other, it really makes you want to say screw it.