no one gets to tell me if I've lost or if I've won

Yeah, that's what drives me nuts about the Torchwood fandom. I ship Jack/Ianto, but even I'll admit that there's mutual attraction between Jack and Gwen in S2. I don't like it (it kind of squicks me, because I'd seen them as having a brother/sister relationship in S1), but it's there. I wish that the writers would choose whether to keep it subtext or make it more blatant, as this in between is unfair to all parties. Anywho. /ramble :)